I received a message from someone who follows my Facebook page. She sent a message telling me how long she had been a single mom and also shared a little about herself. I always enjoy hearing from other single moms. We all come from different walks of life and our stories are different, but we have something in common; and that gives us a connection even when we don't live near each other.
So, I'm going to start something new. Once a month, I want to have a Single Mom Spotlight. I will spotlight a single mom by interviewing her and posting her story on my blog. SINGLE MOMS...this is your time to SHINE. This is an opportunity for you to share your story. We all have a story and we can learn from each other. I would like to interview moms from every walk of life: moms who are still single; moms who were once single but are now married or are in a long-term relationship; moms whose children are grown; and teen moms.
If you are interested in being interviewed and sharing your single mom story, please contact me. I can't wait to hear from you!
Here's an example of what it will look like:
How long have you been a single mom?
I've been a single mom for a little over 11 years.
How many kids do you have and what are their ages?
I have one son. He turned 12 in April.
Share a little about your story:
I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant. My son's dad and I decided to move in together soon after I found out I was pregnant...with the plans of eventually getting married. Our relationship had always been pretty rocky. After Brenn (my son) was born, things started to get worse. I pushed for more of a commitment and he was not ready. So, when Brenn was eight months old, we split up. I was terrified of raising a child by myself. What made the situation even worse is that Brenn's dad ended up disappearing for five years without so much as a phone call. Even though I was dealing with a lot of hatred and bitterness, I never said anything mean or condemning about him around Brenn. After Brenn turned 5, his dad contacted me out of the blue to see if I would be willing for him to start seeing Brenn. I had a lot of anxiety at that time...not knowing how Brenn would react and not knowing if his dad would even stick around. We started off slow (Brenn going for a day during the weekend) and then transitioning into Brenn going every other weekend. Thankfully, Brenn's dad has been a part of his life ever since.
If you could share one piece of advice with other single moms, what would it be?
I have so many "pieces" of advice! My biggest one is to focus on what's important. Remember-no matter if there is a man in your life, you and your kids are still a family... AND, find a support system whether it be family, friends, or your church.
What are our favorite activities to do as a family?
Brenn and I enjoy watching movies, hiking, bike riding, and traveling.
What are some hardships you've faced as a single mom?
Financial hardships have been the biggest challenge, but God has been faithful to provide for our needs...and many of our wants!
What do you enjoy doing when you have time to yourself?
I enjoy blogging, writing, camping, reading, and traveling.
Share an example of a day in your family's life:
My day starts anywhere between
5:30-6:00 a.m. (depending on how often I push snooze). If it's a day I have to jog, then I will get out and jog for about 30-40 minutes. I come back and quickly get ready. At about 7:00 a.m. I start the daunting task of waking Brenn up. When the bear finally makes his appearance, I talk him through everything he needs to do..."take a shower, brush your teeth, get your shoes on, blah blah blah." Between 7:40-7:45 a.m. we are out the door and speeding to Brenn's school so that he's not late. After he's dropped off, I head to work. By then, I'm ready for a nap and lots of caffeine. At 3:00 p.m. I pick Brenn up (and 2 other kids if it's my carpool day). He comes back to work with me until I get off work at 4:45 p.m. Then, we go home, I make supper, exercise (if I didn't run that morning), help Brenn with his homework, clean up the kitchen, check Facebook, maybe write a blog post, work at my freelance business, and then go to bed. I'm a night owl, so I tend to stay up way to late.
What is a dream/goal you have for the future?
I eventually want to be self employed full time and able to support us with my freelance business. I also want to finish my degree. And, hopefully one day I'll get married...maybe :)