Randomness and ruts

Thank you all for making my SITS day great! I'm slowly going through the comments and visiting other blogs. I love meeting fellow bloggers!

I knew I was in a rut before vacation and I was definitely in a rut after vacation. I didn't want to leave. AT ALL. Surely I can find a way to make a living as a beach bum...

Weight loss has been slow going. I've seriously lost my passion for a lot things lately. I think I've finally figured out what my deal is. I have lost focus. I've been so worried about what others are doing and have lost focus on what I need to be doing. Such is life...

Those elementary school teachers were so right when they used to tell me to worry about myself. Not that I was ever in other people's business or anything.

So, it's time to reassess my priorities and get back in the groove. 

I have 40 more pounds to lose
I have two half marathons coming up

Lots of exciting things are happening and I don't want to miss out because I'm worried about situations I can't control.

Here's my random thoughts for the week:

I hate Tennessee allergies

This is a picture of my friend's farm...now I want a farm too


My beach reading. Interesting book.

And how about that Bachelorette finale?? I can't watch without reading the spoilers. I was totally waiting for Brooks to come back. I have to say the proposal was adorable though. 

It's My SITS Day!

Oh my gosh, y'all....it's my SITS Day!

SITS, my friends, is a community of 40,000 women bloggers who make it a priority to teach and support one another.

As I lay here in my bed on my girls trip at Cocoa Beach, I have to say being today's featured blogger just makes my week even better!

By the way, I highly recommend Cocoa Beach, Florida as a vacation destination. Great place!

My name is Jennifer and I'm a full time working single mommy to a 13 year old son. It's been just us for almost those whole 13 years, so life has been pretty interesting.

I started blogging as an outlet...and because I can't afford therapy. A couple of years ago, I began blogging about my weight loss journey. It's been a struggle, but I'm happy to say that two years later I'm 40 lbs lighter and have one half marathon under my belt. I'm not the same person I was a couple of years ago and thankfully this blog has helped me to keep track of my journey. It's not over yet!

I blog about everything and nothing...parenting, weight loss, food, and dating. I seriously one day will write a book and share some of my dating fiascoes. It's a scary world out there folks!

Thank you so much for stopping by and I hope you will stop by again. You are the ones who make this day so special!

Weekend Shenanigans

Instead of the weekend being full of things I had to do,  it was full of friends and great conversations. 

Friday night proved that a person is never too old to have a slumber party. It was my last night as "single Jennifer." Saturday, after ten long days, I would once again become "Brenn's mom, Jennifer." My friend's husband was out of town and her daughter was spending the night with a friend, so I packed a bag and headed over to her house so she wouldn't be alone. Poor girl had to listen to me drone on and one about my dating life...one day I'm going to be famous with all the crazy dating stories I have.

Saturday morning I woke up bright and early to meet some other friends for a six mile run. This was my last long run before the 10K on July 4th. I will describe the run in two words: Tennessee humidity. It was HAWT. 

Soon after the run, my boy came home. I really enjoy the break, but I have to say life just isn't the same without having that kid home. I often think in just a few years he will be even more independent and there I will be...without child and alone. 

I keep telling people I need to start collecting cats now just so I have a head start.

Saturday evening was spent roasting hot dogs and playing Disney Trivial Pursuit with friends...this was probably the most ADD trivial pursuit game I have ever played.

Sunday afternoon was spent at our recreation center pool taking in some sun. I'm trying to get rid of some of my pasty whiteness.

A very, very nice relaxing weekend which ended with a promise.

I also learned something this weekend. I have read many dating "rule" articles. It is absolutely crazy how many "rules" there are nowadays. However, there's one rule I will be throwing out the window. I might change my mind next week, but here it is: If you want to talk to the guy you're seeing (or kind of seeing) just call him. It's okay to pick up the phone. The "rule" says that you don't initiate contact. Well, sometimes you should. I don't mean call him every five minutes while texting him in between calls. Try to be a little smarter than that. 

I could be totally off my rocker, but maybe I'm not...time will tell I guess.

Dating is hard y'all...especially for us old(er) people.

Sami's Shenanigans

Disappointment and Determination

I would just like to start out by saying rejection sucks. Absolutely and totally sucks...no matter in what shape or form it comes.

This past weekend was an emotional and disappointing weekend. The end of a relationship.

In a matter of two days I gained 4 lbs. Eating right was really the last thing on my mind.

As each day passes though, I have found so many areas in which I am different compared to a couple of years ago.

As I shared in a post a few months ago, I've always dealt with insecurity. Not just insecurity with myself, but insecurity in pretty much every area of my life. In the past, disappointments and rejection of any kind would pretty much cripple me. I did everything to avoid putting myself in situations where that could even happen.

I'm actually happy to say that although rejection and disappointments still suck, they make me even more determined to continue on this weight loss journey. They don't cripple me like they have in the past. 

Why do I feel different now?  

Because I have come to realize my self-worth is not determined through other people's eyes.

I'm on my way to healing.

I was supposed to begin a new challenge on June 1. I'm late but I'm still going to do the challenge. It's called the Bikini Body Mommy 90 Day Challenge

I'll be taking pics and measurements hopefully today. I'll post updates periodically, but I've decided not to weigh or measure myself again until the end of the challenge. I'll be hiding the scale. Between the challenge, running, and other cross training I should be one fit girl in three months!

So, here's to new beginnings and a renewed determination to continue working on being the best person I can be.

Country Music Half Marathon 2013...My First Half

As my fellow A to Z blogger friends can see, I am an A to Z blogger dropout.

My goal of blogging every day went downhill after my half marathon.

Why, you ask? Because life just got busy... and I had the post race blues.

It really exists. I Googled it.

I had been training since the first of the year for this half marathon and then after one very, VERY wet Saturday morning, it was over. JUST. LIKE. THAT.


But, I have decided I'm hooked. There will be more half marathons in my future for sure.

I had watched the weather forecast all week leading up to the half. The closer it got to Saturday, the worse the forecast. I refused to believe it though. When we ran the 15K, the weather was yucky, but race day ended up being rain free. I just knew it would happen again...

It started raining like cats and dogs Friday night.

Race day began at 3:30 a.m. with some sprinkles. My friend Liz, who was running the half with me, and I decided not to stay in Nashville the night before. I'm not sure if that was the best decision given that we had to get up so early. So around 4 a.m. Liz, her husband, and daughter pulled into my driveway and Brenn and I hopped in (he was WAY excited to be up at the crack of dawn).

After just one miss-turn we pulled into the LP Field parking lot around 5 a.m. This is where the finish line was and where our family would be waiting for us. We had to take a shuttle to Centennial Park. After gathering all our stuff and finding the first of many porta potties we would see throughout the morning, we said goodbye to our family and started making our way to the shuttle buses. That's when the rain started again.

Our shuttle transported us (rather bumpy) to Centennial Park where we took pics, found some aspirin and water, and used the porta potties once more.

I might have been a little over-hydrated for this race...

Once we found our corral WAY in the back, we took refuge under a store awning and hunkered down for an hour. During that time, I decided it was best if I used the porta potty one more time (going on three times now), so we made it to the long line of porta potty people. While there we saw another friend, took pics, and then headed back to our corral. By this time we are pretty soaked.

The race started at 7 a.m. Our wave didn't actually get to the starting line until almost 8 a.m. Liz and I decided by then that we were going to just run the race, not worry about time. Just run. It was POURING rain and we were cold and miserable.

Once we started running, I began to feel better. I started to get in a groove. The rain stunk, but the feeling of actually running my first half overshadowed the pouring rain...for a little while anyway. I was shocked to find that even in mile 9 I was feeling pretty good. I had only done 11.2 miles during my last training run, so I was bracing myself to hit a wall around mile 11. Didn't happen until mile 12. I wanted to cry a river. I had to keep telling myself it was almost over. I had to walk quite a bit of that mile.

We hit mile 13 and soon after we saw the finish line. Wet from head to toe, cold to the bone, absolutely exhausted...we finished our first half marathon in three hours and one second. I cried. I cried from pure exhaustion, I cried because it was over, I cried because I just accomplished something my old self would have never even attempted. I'm even crying right now thinking of that moment.

The run was much, much slower than I wanted. The weather conditions were miserable. But, I can't say enough how much the volunteers and spectators motivated me to keep going. I love the running community. It's not about competing against other people. The competition is really within yourself. Rather, the running community supports and encourages one another. We all have something in common and that joins us in a very special way. After running for 13 miles with strangers, they really aren't strangers anymore.

I said before I ran the County Music Half that I would never run it again because of the cost. But, I think I've changed my mind. I want another opportunity to run it again during better conditions.

Until then, on to the next half...in September or October

And maybe even another half in February at Disney World... :)

Oh, The Places I Would Go!


For the month of April, I will be participating in the A to Z blog challenge. This means that every day (except for Sunday) I'll share a blog post that coincides with the day's letter.


Where would I travel if money were no object and I had all the time in the world?

Ever since I saw the movie, "Under the Tuscan Sun" I've wanted to go to Tuscany...
and buy an old house that needs fixing up.

P.S. I Love You is one of my favorite movies...and made me want to see Ireland. So pretty!

Mt. Everest
I don't just want to visit, I want to climb it. I've had a crazy fascination with Mt. Everest for a couple of years. I've read several books written by people who have climbed it. Weird, I know.

Appalachian Trail
 I would hike the whole Appalachian Trail from Georgia to Main...or Main to Georgia

Clear blue water, beach, sun...

Prince Edward Island
Only because the setting of "Anne of Green Gables" was set there

New York City
I am from New York State, but I have NEVER been to New York City

I always see gorgeous pictures and always wish I could see it in person

So, where would you go if time and money were no object?

Don't forget about the Kindle Fire HD Giveaway!

Nothing Better


For the month of April, I will be participating in the A to Z blog challenge. This means that every day (except for Sunday) I'll share a blog post that coincides with the day's letter.


There is nothing better than...

Feeling the sand between my toes

Spending time with family

Hiking a good trail

Spending the day with my two favorite boys

Making a goal and actually accomplishing it

Going through old pictures that bring back memories

Getting to witness God's handiwork

Yep, nothing better...



For the month of April, I will be participating in the A to Z blog challenge. This means that every day (except for Sunday) I'll share a blog post that coincides with the day's letter. 


What happened at the Boston Marathon today is so sad. Why a person (or people) would have such disregard for human life is beyond me. 

Given that I run, I also think of all the runners who have trained so hard for this marathon. The day that they should be celebrating an accomplishment is now marred with devastation and sadness. I think about the families who still might be waiting to hear that their loved ones are okay. 

I'll be running my first half marathon in two weeks. I think of my loved ones who'll be waiting for me at the finish line and it breaks my heart to think of the family and friends who were waiting for their runners today.

And just like so many others, I think of how precious life is. We don't know what tomorrow will bring. This is just another reminder for us to treasure every moment. 

Every kiss

Every hug

Every moment that we have with the people we love is a gift. 

Especially when we see horrible tragedies such as the one today.

A 'Runner's United To Remember' Facebook event has begun for those interested.

This is a virtual event where anyone can run or walk any distance anywhere anytime in honor of the victims and to show unity in running community.